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Monday, May 9, 2011

I actually had a great Mother's Day! Considering how most of my Mothers Day go, I was psyching myself up to be disappointed. I told Steve that as long as he didn't kick me in the butt, it should be better than last year. And he totally pulled through for me. Not only that, I actually got a gift...and a card! And not just any gift. It was tickets to see Les Miserables in a couple of weeks. I have been wishing and dreaming to see that ever since I was literally a little girl. So it's a dream come true! My kids even came up with a few homemade things/services that were great. As I didn't even manage to get a gift or special treatment last year from anyone, this year was a giant improvement. So all in all, I think I can tolerate this holiday if it plays out like that! It was also our anniversary which is always a good reminder to feel grateful for the man I am lucky to call my husband. For 13 years now. Time has flown by.

I just want to say some of my favorite things about being a wife and mom.
Favorite thing about being Steve's wife:
Always having someone to turn to, talk to, hold, trust, love and be loved. He's perfect for me. Being married is truly the way to be.
Favorite thing about being a mom:
Celeste: She's starting to act like a real teenager and I actually really like teenagers. I think this will be fun in so many ways.
Jonah: He loves learning about random stuff and then passing on his knowledge to me. One of his favorite pass-times is reading random Wikipedia articles about brainy stuff.
Eden: She reminds me of myself when I was a little girl. She loves to act and be in the spotlight.
Becca: She is a total Mama's girl. Sweet, loving and kind. Wants to be near me and please me. And I feel the same for her.
Charity: Oh my goodness, I have never enjoyed a baby and toddler like I have my Charity. She is sheer delight to me. She says "Ma Ma" ALL the time and I never get sick of it.
Andy: He's so special and tender and thoughtful. I can't wait to give him a home and family.
Hana: She's way too easy to love and attach to. When our adoption agency representative went to check on her recently she told them "I am praying for my adoptive family; that God keeps them well and that they come to take me soon."
Samuel: He's kicking me all the time now. What a special feeling that is. I love him already and feel blessed he's made it this far. I'm feeling hopeful he'll make it the entire way.

Well, that's about it.

I just have one more thing that has come to mind and I really would love to hear anyone's thoughts on it. Here's my question I've been wondering about:

Is it possible to sincerely love or care for someone else when you do not have respect for that person? I really am curious. So think about it, and let me know what you think. Random. I know...

4 comments:

Andrea's Mom said...

oh, wow...you know, I rarely comment but I was just pondering that today myself.
I have found that I am "trying" to love this person I have NO respect for at all. NONE. so far, I'd have to say that I would save his life if he needed it, give him food if he was hungry, give him (temporary) shelter, but trust, care, concern, prayer? I'm working on that part.

Memzy said...

So glad you had a nice mothers day!!

Jen said...

I don't think it is possible.

Anonymous said...

I am actually in that same situation. We took in a homeless family, (mom and 3 kids) and purchased new clothes, shoes, etc for the kids. The mother was TOTALLY ungrateful for the fact that my 16 yr old daughter at the time GAVE her room to the two girls, the boy shared a room with my son, and we gave the mom her own room. My daughter slept in the family room...NO privacy. Our Bishop kept telling me I had to tell her to leave, but I kept remembering the passages in the Bible about doing unto others, and "when ye have done this unto the least of these, then ye have done unto me". All she did in the 5 months that she stayed here (no charge) was complain and tell me that if this was her home, she wouldn't have any of the s--t in it. (refering to food.) After I finally asked her to leave, she filed a false police report against my 12 yr old son, accusing him of molestation against her daughter "D" who was 6 years younger than him. She didn't have a daughter "D", she had a son "D" who was 6 wks younger. ARGH!!! The police called me AFTER they had questioned my son at his school, and the officer even told me that the woman was crazy. I was asked not to retaliate and I didn't. I ran into her a few months ago at the Bishops storehouse and I really, really wanted to scratch her eyes out. I didn't. I kept saying to myself I have to forgive. I can say that I have forgiven her, but she really does need to ask forgivness from my boy...this has been very traumatic for him. As far as loving her goes, I am working on it. This may take MANY more years, it's only been almost 7 now. In that time I've had to seek professional counseling and did a short stint in the mental ward. I can't believe people can do these things...on purpose!!! I sure hope you will be able to find the strength you need for whatever situation finds you seeking this answer. Congratulations on your new additions!!!! Love, Jeanna